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Pastor Godman Akinlabi Says Sexual Compatibility Is Essential for Marriage, Warns Unmet Intimacy Can Contribute to Infidelity
…says “…If sex is not your thing, you shouldn’t be married…“
The lead pastor of The Elevation Church, Pastor Godman Akinlabi has emphasized the importance of sexual compatibility in marriage, warning that couples who neglect intimacy may face serious challenges that could contribute to infidelity.
Speaking during a recent episode of The Morayo Show, the renowned pastor said cases of unfaithfulness in marriage should not always be viewed from a one-sided perspective. According to him, both sexual incompatibility and a lack of personal self-discipline can play significant roles in marital infidelity.
He explained that some instances of adultery may arise when one partner consistently feels deprived of intimacy within the marriage, stressing that sexual compatibility is a vital component of a healthy and fulfilling marital relationship.
Recalling one of his counselling experiences, Akinlabi spoke about a woman who told him that sex was not important to her. He responded by saying, “Sex has to be your thing. If sex is not your thing, you shouldn’t be married. You’re going to make somebody’s life miserable.”
The pastor stressed that intimacy should never be treated as a trivial aspect of marriage, urging couples experiencing challenges in their sexual relationship to seek counselling and professional help rather than ignore the issue.
According to him, unresolved sexual incompatibility can leave one spouse feeling frustrated and vulnerable to temptation, increasing the risk of seeking satisfaction outside the marriage.
However, Akinlabi maintained that unmet intimacy is not the only reason behind infidelity. He noted that some individuals engage in extramarital affairs despite enjoying healthy marital relationships, attributing such behaviour to a lack of self-control and discipline.
He explained that some people continue to pursue sexual relationships outside their marriages regardless of how fulfilled they are at home, emphasizing that faithfulness ultimately requires personal responsibility and self-discipline.
Pastor Akinlabi concluded that building a successful and lasting marriage demands mutual commitment from both spouses, open communication about intimacy, and the willingness to address challenges together instead of allowing unresolved issues to threaten the relationship.